If you really want to have a discussion about this, I'd love to! But this is who I am and I figured you should know not to serve me grapefruit juice at brunch :)
Wednesday, June 24, 2015
I Don't Want Kids
There. I said it. As a 26 year old woman, I know I don't want kids. I'm not explaining my reasons. I'm not apologizing. I'm not justifying. I'm simply stating the facts. Just like the fact that I love chocolate and hate grapefruit juice.
Tuesday, June 16, 2015
One Year
Yesterday was Mo and I's one-year anniversary. And I'm now here to gush about how wonderful of a weekend we had, how amazing he is, and just how happy I am with life. I feel like that's ALL I ever blog about...when I do show up!
I've been thinking about how I wanted to work his and I's relationship. You see so many people out there call their significant other their:
~better half
~person that completes them
~love of their life
~very best friend
~person
I'm here to tell you that Mo is none of those. So controversial. I know. What's even more shocking, is that I already know that Mo doesn't want to be any of those. Here's why he's not any of those things.
~Better Half/Person that completes me
Was I not a whole person before I met and started dating him? Because if you've let me walk around missing limbs or body parts for 25 years, I'm gonna be pissed. Seriously. Yes, he makes me be a better person, just like I make him a better person, but we both were complete before we started dating, and will continue to be complete if we ever were to stop. (But I really hope that doesn't happen!)
~Love of my life
This one has always bothered me. Yes, I love Mo with all my heart. But, what if something happens to him? Am I supposed to go around the rest of my life not trying to find love again? This one just kind of pigeonholes me for the rest of my life, even if he isn't a part of it.
~Very Best Friend
There are certain things I don't talk to Mo about that I do talk to my girlfriends about. I know that Mo could handle anything I throw his way, but there are some things that he just can't relate to. And when Mo aggravates me (which NEVER happens if you ask him!!) I'm gonna turn to my girls to vent, not him! Of course, I'll turn to him to rectify the situation, but to talk through it, I'm gonna go to my girls. I want Mo to have friends besides me. I'm not someone he can nerd out about cars or video games with. I try, I really do, but it's just not my thing. But that's why he has best friends that aren't his girlfriend :) I've always thought you could have more than one best friend, anyway.
~Person
I did not go to the market and buy Mo. Nor did he go online and buy me. He is not my possession nor am I his. Labeling someone as their "person" seems very possessive to me. Mo is my boyfriend. He is human. Labeling someone as a possession reduces their worth and value to the equivalent of the water bottle sitting on my table. And Mo has SO much more to offer this world that the ability to contain liquids. "My man" kind of falls into this category although an acquaintance ruined this one for me, more than anything else.
So alas, I love my boyfriend. I really do. But I will never (seriously) refer to him as any of the above.
What I WILL refer to him:
~Teammate (probably my favorite way I think of him-not really a way I'd refer to him)
~Boyfriend
~His name
~Babe/Baby (I've gone soft!!!!)
~Bae (when I want to be annoying)
Now that I'm off my soapbox, let's talk about our anniversary! He came up to KC Friday night and we had taco salads for dinner. We're going to the lake for his birthday next month so we're trying to shed some weight to look great! We went to a local bar and had a few drinks while we watched the Royals lose (boo!!!). Saturday, he had homework (that's right, he is going for his Master's!!!) in the morning and we watched some Orange is the New Black (Season 3!!!) We had reservations at 7 for our anniversary dinner at 801 Chophouse at Power & Light, but he wanted to hit up a happy hour at our favorite oyster house in KC, so we went there first but had some time to kill so we went to Yardhouse at P&L too. Dinner was AMAZING. I had a delicious Prime Rib. He got a KC Strip and a 15-year scotch that he said was great. We also split an order of asparagus. No dessert, but I did have a delicious 10 year port. We didn't want the night to end, so we went to the jazz bar across the street from my place and had a few more drinks before ending our night. It was an amazing night spent just the 2 of us, hardly any cell phone interaction. It was so nice to talk about, celebrate, and enjoy being us. It was also lots of fun to get all dressed up! The only picture we took of our night:
As I've written this post, I've had several editorial thoughts that I just wanted to share
1. This took a very morbid, depressing turn that I wasn't expecting-sorry!
2. This is the ONLY place I refer to him as Mo. It is SO weird saying "I love Mo" I almost feel like I'm cheating lol
3. I hope to share lots of photos from vacations I've already taken (Washington DC), will take (lake, Minnesota, Gulf Shores), and company I will have (EEEEEEK!!!!!!! FRIDAY!!!!!!!) in one giant post at the end of the summer. Til then, keep an eye on facebook :)
I've been thinking about how I wanted to work his and I's relationship. You see so many people out there call their significant other their:
~better half
~person that completes them
~love of their life
~very best friend
~person
I'm here to tell you that Mo is none of those. So controversial. I know. What's even more shocking, is that I already know that Mo doesn't want to be any of those. Here's why he's not any of those things.
~Better Half/Person that completes me
Was I not a whole person before I met and started dating him? Because if you've let me walk around missing limbs or body parts for 25 years, I'm gonna be pissed. Seriously. Yes, he makes me be a better person, just like I make him a better person, but we both were complete before we started dating, and will continue to be complete if we ever were to stop. (But I really hope that doesn't happen!)
~Love of my life
This one has always bothered me. Yes, I love Mo with all my heart. But, what if something happens to him? Am I supposed to go around the rest of my life not trying to find love again? This one just kind of pigeonholes me for the rest of my life, even if he isn't a part of it.
~Very Best Friend
There are certain things I don't talk to Mo about that I do talk to my girlfriends about. I know that Mo could handle anything I throw his way, but there are some things that he just can't relate to. And when Mo aggravates me (which NEVER happens if you ask him!!) I'm gonna turn to my girls to vent, not him! Of course, I'll turn to him to rectify the situation, but to talk through it, I'm gonna go to my girls. I want Mo to have friends besides me. I'm not someone he can nerd out about cars or video games with. I try, I really do, but it's just not my thing. But that's why he has best friends that aren't his girlfriend :) I've always thought you could have more than one best friend, anyway.
~Person
I did not go to the market and buy Mo. Nor did he go online and buy me. He is not my possession nor am I his. Labeling someone as their "person" seems very possessive to me. Mo is my boyfriend. He is human. Labeling someone as a possession reduces their worth and value to the equivalent of the water bottle sitting on my table. And Mo has SO much more to offer this world that the ability to contain liquids. "My man" kind of falls into this category although an acquaintance ruined this one for me, more than anything else.
So alas, I love my boyfriend. I really do. But I will never (seriously) refer to him as any of the above.
What I WILL refer to him:
~Teammate (probably my favorite way I think of him-not really a way I'd refer to him)
~Boyfriend
~His name
~Babe/Baby (I've gone soft!!!!)
~Bae (when I want to be annoying)
Now that I'm off my soapbox, let's talk about our anniversary! He came up to KC Friday night and we had taco salads for dinner. We're going to the lake for his birthday next month so we're trying to shed some weight to look great! We went to a local bar and had a few drinks while we watched the Royals lose (boo!!!). Saturday, he had homework (that's right, he is going for his Master's!!!) in the morning and we watched some Orange is the New Black (Season 3!!!) We had reservations at 7 for our anniversary dinner at 801 Chophouse at Power & Light, but he wanted to hit up a happy hour at our favorite oyster house in KC, so we went there first but had some time to kill so we went to Yardhouse at P&L too. Dinner was AMAZING. I had a delicious Prime Rib. He got a KC Strip and a 15-year scotch that he said was great. We also split an order of asparagus. No dessert, but I did have a delicious 10 year port. We didn't want the night to end, so we went to the jazz bar across the street from my place and had a few more drinks before ending our night. It was an amazing night spent just the 2 of us, hardly any cell phone interaction. It was so nice to talk about, celebrate, and enjoy being us. It was also lots of fun to get all dressed up! The only picture we took of our night:
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| Thank you for an absolutely wonderful night that perfectly summarized the past year. |
As I've written this post, I've had several editorial thoughts that I just wanted to share
1. This took a very morbid, depressing turn that I wasn't expecting-sorry!
2. This is the ONLY place I refer to him as Mo. It is SO weird saying "I love Mo" I almost feel like I'm cheating lol
3. I hope to share lots of photos from vacations I've already taken (Washington DC), will take (lake, Minnesota, Gulf Shores), and company I will have (EEEEEEK!!!!!!! FRIDAY!!!!!!!) in one giant post at the end of the summer. Til then, keep an eye on facebook :)
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